Giving a memorable mother of the bride speech
Wedding day speeches are so important. It is through the wedding day speeches that romance, intimacy, and happiness can be built to celebrate the union of the bride and groom. This is a key role of the mother of the bride's speech.
The wedding day speeches also allow all the guests to see the bridal party and get to know them better. Members of the groom's family may never have met the mother of the bride before, so her speech can help build relationships across the families.
The people giving wedding speeches these days varies and can include the bride, the groom, the best man, the master of ceremonies, the father of the bride, the father of the groom, the mother of the bride, the maid of honour, and anyone else who is important to the newly married couple.
Keep your wedding day speeches short, no matter who you are.
Mother of the bride speech: Plan together
One key issue is to decide exactly who will say what and when, before you write your mother of the bride's speech. As there can be so many wedding day speeches, it is important not to have repetition, or to have the speeches drag on.
All of the people responsible for giving the wedding day speeches need to do a really good job, including you as the mother of the bride. The pressure is on!
There are lots of ways to ensure that you speak really well on the day and that your Mother of the bride's speech is a standout for the bride and groom.
The general principles of how to speak at a wedding are thoroughly covered in our e-book: The beginner’s guide to being a brilliant MC. It contains an entire section on weddings and a sample mother of the bride speech.
Mother of the bride speech: Select carefully
There was a time when the mother of the bride would not give a speech, but times have changed.
The mother of the bride speech can be the centrepiece of all the wedding day speeches, and it is entirely up to each bridal party to decide exactly who will speak.
Rather than going on a very traditional format for the wedding day speeches it may be better to simply pick the people who can speak the best and give the best wedding day speeches.
If the father of the bride is a very boring and dull speaker and the mother of the bride is an exciting, engaging speaker, why wouldn't you want a mother of the bride’s speech?
I remember when one of my friends got married, her mother gave an absolutely riveting mother of the bride speech. The father of the bride didn't participate much at all in the speeches.
The mother of the bride was an experienced speaker and a teacher, and felt completely at ease standing in front of the wedding guests talking proudly about her daughter.
Mother of the bride speech: Embrace the love
When my friend gave her mother of the bride's speech she added humour into her speech by embracing stories about the bride. She went through her daughter's history and scattered amusing anecdotes throughout. She selected out those that covered some of the funny things that the bride had done or said when she was growing up.
She embraced love in her speech and expressed the love and admiration that she had for her daughter.
She included joy and happiness and was visibly delighted to be witnessing her daughter's marriage to the man that her daughter had chosen to marry.
She also spoke about the groom and what she knew of him and how proud she was to have him in her family. She welcomed the groom into the family with a joyous heart, so everybody celebrated the union.
These are the kinds of elements that you may like to include in your mother of the bride's speech.
Mother of the bride speech: Express gratitude
If I were to summarise what I thought was the most important aspect of the mother of the bride speech, it would be to speak from the heart with gratitude.
Her speech is to convey the heartfelt feelings that she has towards the bride and the groom.
She may also express her heartfelt appreciation to all guests who have travelled a long way to the wedding, to the elderly special guests who have overcome difficulties to get there, and to everybody who has come to witness this wonderful celebration.
However, this isn't an automatic component of the mother of the bride's speech. The content must be negotiated with all the other people giving wedding day speeches, so each one knows who is responsible for thanking whom.
You must know your reason for speaking.
Mother of the bride speech: Do not open old wounds
On some occasions the mother of the bride speech is being given because of relationship difficulties with the father of the bride, or because the father of the bride has died. These situations need to be dealt with very sensitively so old wounds are not opened up.
If the mother of the bride is still married to the father of the bride, but he has chosen not to speak, then her speech needs to express the joint pleasure both of them feel for the bride and groom.
Of course, family relationships are not always simple and the mother of the bride may now be married to somebody else, other than the father of the bride. This situation also needs to be handled delicately so that there is no rivalry or sensitivities that can interfere with the delight of the day.
Enjoy giving your mother of the bride speech. It's wonderful to be able to hold the attention of the guests when you convey your love for your beautiful bride and daughter.
These tips are only the beginning of what you need to know. I recommend you now read the e-book "The beginner's guide to being a brilliant MC", so you can gain a comprehensive selection of further ideas on how to engage an audience and how to thank people as part of the wedding day speeches. The sample mother of the bride speech is there to inspire you too.